Friday, October 26, 2012

Changing your mindset

Health and fitness is not just about changing ourselves physically.  It's about breaking bad habits and forming new ones that will benefit us and our loved ones in the long run. It is so much easier said than done and Paul and I feel like it's a daily journey(sometimes battle) to fight the good fight.  The mind plays such a crucial role in being healthy and can make or break us.  If we don't deal with the daily stressors and pain, whether past or present, we will keep spinning our wheels and never reach our goals.  Trust me, I know from experience.

I constantly battle with my need for control over every situation in my life.  I stress myself out so much and think that every thing that goes wrong is my fault and I should have been able to prevent it from happening.  It probably sounds insane to some of you, but that is how I am and it actually takes a toll on my physical health. Paul always says "it must be so stressful to be stuck in your head."  While meditating one morning, I had an epiphany that really opened my eyes and helped me to understand my desire for control and what to do about it. 

It all started when I lost my older brother, Brian, at the age of 11.  I was old enough to understand what was going on, but too young to be able to work through all my feelings of loss and anxiety.  It was a horrible and devastating experience that I wouldn't wish upon my worst enemy.  He was my hero and I looked up to him with such love and admiration.  From that day forward, I clung to my family and was petrified that I would lose someone else close to me.  This spawned my need for control over everything in my life.  If I could keep tabs on everyone I loved and made sure that they were always okay, I was good to go.  I wanted to take care of everyone even if it meant putting my health on the back burner.  It took me a long time and more loss to realize that I will NEVER have control over everything in my life.  Every day is different and brings about new challenges as well as rewards!  Instead of trying to take everything on as my own, I decided all I can do is bring the most positive attitude I can to the table and treat people the way I want to be treated.  I have my days when my bad habit sneaks back in and tries to take over, but I take a step back, meditate a little bit more, and keep on keeping on. It still gets the best of me sometimes and when it does I pay the price physically.

We all fall down sometimes, but have to realize that we are doing our best and can still reach our goals amidst set backs. Don't let your bad habits dictate your life and hold you back.  Stressing about losing weight or looking a certain way actually causes our bodies and minds more harm then good.  Remember, we are all in this journey together and are there to help!!!!

I saw a great quote at the Amish market a few weeks ago and it's stuck in my head.  Treat each other kindly.  Everyone is going through some kind of hardship and needs compassion.  So true...... 

Yours in Health,
Dawn  

I like Will's attitude on life and try to practice it more often;)

Thursday, October 4, 2012

What It's All About

As we close out another challenge we wanted to share with you a success story that truly encapsulates all that we are trying to do with this whole thing.  The blog, the training, the challenges, they are all worth it when you get to share experiences like this with friends.  Enjoy.


As this most recent 30 day challenge comes to an end I told Dawn I would jot down a few words to speak about my experiences.   I hope everyone who participated is feeling really rewarded by this process.   I can't say that I made it without cheating nor can I say that I ever really started because this eating style has become my chosen way of life.  Everyone trying to eat clean can for 30 days probably relate , life always tries to find ways to get in the way.  I know mine did...like my eldest child's birthday, husband's birthday, and a vacation to the beach all in the first two weeks.  Oh and did I mention the 6 layer rainbow cake with swiss meringue icing that I baked myself to bring great joy to my little girl.  Baking!  Talk about testing (and finding) my limits for self discipline!

My story goes as follows....I met the Kirks over two years ago when they moved into our neighborhood.  For those of you that know Dawn & Paul personally, I'm sure you can understand why I was excited to meet yet another nice, fun loving family in the neighborhood.  Nothing beats good neighbors.  Anyway, at that time, I was 5 months pregnant with my second child.  Imagine being 5 months pregnant (getting bigger by the minute), making friends with two personal trainers and seeing them at the pool all summer long.  Ordinarily I wouldn't want to inflict that kind of mental punishment upon myself, but  to their credit I never once felt an ounce of  judgement about the very obvious choices I had been making in my life.  Who wouldn't love to meet great new friends like that? 

One bouncing baby boy along with lots of excess weight, fast forward to the summer of 2011.  After spending plenty of time and many potluck dinners with the Kirks I knew that I wanted to make some changes in my life.  I was thrilled when Dawn mentioned she was going to start group training in our community.  In my life before kids I was no stranger to a regular fitness routine and truthfully have always enjoyed the balance it gave me.  I had no doubt that I would quickly regain my strength and level of fitness but I knew I had let my weight get out of control in the previous years.   What I was more worried about was the weight I had gained over the past 10 years that no diet or fitness regimen had been able to help me take off completely.  

So I did it...I enlisted my night owl, sleep deprived, newborn mom self to drag (and I mean drag)  myself out of bed at  5:00 a.m. to workout.  The  rebuilding had begun, and just as I thought, the strength and fitness started to come back.  Slowly I noticed the jiggling object following me up the stairs (known as my big old butt)  started to feel more like a big object without the jiggle.  I was happy, but the size wasn't decreasing or at least not at the rate that I wanted.  That was when I realized that I was going to have to start looking at the whole picture.  That meant committing to doing one of the Clean Eating Challenges that I would hear the Kirks talk about.  Even though I was so bothered by the idea of not having cream in my coffee, cheese with everything I knew that I loved fruits and veggies.  I decided I had to give it a shot.  

That was when it all really fell into place for me.  I'm not saying that it wasn't difficult, because it was, but within a few weeks I realized that my answers were in my food choices.  Not just how I looked, but how I felt and my ability to make good choices were all being affected by what I put in my mouth.  I was sucked in.  I was starting to get interested in (and understand) concepts  that I had never considered before like blood sugar and inflammation.   During that challenge is when I made a mental shift.  It was no longer about just losing weight, it was about nutrition and whole body health.  

So fast forward again...it's a year after my fist challenge.  I'm still going strong.  I didn't do the "challenge" because I now view it as a way of life.  People always ask me if I'm doing the Paleo Diet.  I always want to answer NO because I don't view it as a diet...I view it as a lifestyle.   It made me realized how the people that have the "Paleolifestylediet" website got the name.

Now I'm down 50 lbs and stronger than I have been in a long time.  I'm feeding myself in a way that I believe gives me strength, energy, nutrition and good health. It's a process but I'm a believer.  I mean I drink my coffee black now.  If you would have told me a year ago that I would be drinking black coffee and having grass fed cheese only occasionally I would have told you that you have the wrong girl.  But here I am.  That is me!

Who knew that two people and an introduction to a new way of living would have such a profound change in my life! Somewhere in their literature I remember reading their salutation "yours in health".  They mean it.  Thank you Kirks!!

I am luckily enough to see Jen's smiling face 3 days a week at 5:30 a.m.  She has a way of brightening up a room and her determination is contagious.  She encourages and inspires her classmates and is a true driving force.  Thank You Jen for the reminder of what it's all about! 


 
We will have more success stories as well as updates on past challenge participants in coming posts.  If this is your first time wrapping up a challenge please click here for important information about coming off of a challenge.